"In contemporary society we’re expected both to praise the miracle of birth and deplore it as the wages of sin. We expect men to take cold showers if they get an erection, and to take Viagra if they can’t. We encourage straight women to kiss in bars, and actual lesbians not to. We expect young men to have sex they’re not ready for, and young women to decline it when they are. We’re expected to say we like oral sex even when we don’t, and to say we dislike anal sex even supposing we do. We’re expected to buy sudoku books with bikini models on the cover and to read Playboy for the articles. We’re expected to gradually lose interest in our spouses and not to have affairs. We’re expected to stress about unplanned, unwanted pregnancy and to see stopping to put on a condom as unromantic. We expect to believe men don’t read romance novels and women don’t watch porn, even though there’s maybe a 30% crossover both directions. If you’re a woman you’re expected to zealously guard your hymen up to the point you get married (whether you wanted to or not), and then upon receipt of a marriage license you’re expected to turn around and let some guy pound away at it whenever he wishes (whether you wanted to or not.) Looking in another direction if you’re a man you’re expected to run screaming from the room if your wife puts her purse down too close to you… because your wife’s purse might somehow magically “make you gay.” We’re supposed to pretend that women faint at the sight of blood, and ignore that men are far more inclined to. We expect women to depend financially on men and expect men to dump their wives for floozies at the drop of a thong. We’re expected to think a model is sexy if she’s in a Victoria’s Secret poster at the mall, and we’re expected to think a mom in workout pants and a sweatshirt isn’t sexy if she’s in the same mall pushing a stroller."
[‘Fuck That.’; quote from Jessica Valenti’s Full Frontal Feminism]
It’s not saying that we should be ‘disgusting’ or eat with our mouths open. The point she’s making is that it doesn’t matter the choice you make as a woman, because it’s never the right one. Especially anything that is acceptable for a man (sitting with your legs open, for example, I find more stable and frankly more comfortable, but it’s not seen as ‘ladylike’) is also what she’s addressing. It’s about the gender roles we’re expected to play that are restrictive and set you up to fail in the eyes of society. It’s about making you insecure enough to keep you submissive and grateful for any small amount of gold-covered shit that’s thrown your way. To all of that, I also say ‘fuck that’. - Amy-Eli
(Source: anarcha-feminist-resistance, via tinylittlefuckinfreakcreatures)
"A man’s ethical behavior should be based effectually on sympathy, education, and social ties and needs; no religious basis is necessary. Man would indeed be in a poor way if he had to be restrained by fear of punishment and hope of reward after death."